The Way Forward

Three Days…Three Challenges…One Better Life

Perspective, Growth, Character, Purpose, Hope

Life moves fast. Between the headlines, notifications, responsibilities, and endless demands for our attention, it’s easy to drift through our days without ever stopping to ask where we’re headed – or who we’re becoming.
The Way Forward is a simple invitation to pause, reflect, and take one meaningful step forward.
Every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday, you’ll find a short reflection built around a single insight, a practical challenge, and a question worth considering. Together, we’ll explore leadership, character, personal growth, purpose, relationships, and the everyday moments that often teach us the most about life.
This isn’t about having all the answers. It’s about learning to see life differently, live what we believe, and become the people we’re meant to be.
Because a better life is rarely built through giant leaps. More often, it’s shaped by small choices, made consistently, one step at a time.
Welcome to The Way Forward.

Monday Moment – Perspective: See Life Differently.
Wednesday Walk – Action: Live What You Believe.
Friday Forward – Growth: Become Who You’re Meant To Be.

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Season 3: Strengthening Relationships

Friday Forward, September 4th, 2026: “Be Where Your Feet Are”

Don’t spend your life somewhere other than where you are.

Have you ever driven somewhere…and realized you barely remember the drive? You arrived. You clearly made all the turns. Stopped at the lights. Hopefully stopped at the stop signs. But your mind? It was somewhere else.

Replaying a conversation. Thinking about work. Planning tomorrow. Worrying about something that hasn’t happened. And suddenly…you’re there.

I think we do something similar with life. We can physically show up for an entire day…without ever really arriving. Our Bodies Are Here. Our Minds Are Everywhere.

Monday, we started with The Phone on the Table. Wednesday, we physically put it away. But here’s the problem: You can put your phone in another room…and still not be present.

Because distraction isn’t always something we’re holding. Sometimes it’s something we’re carrying. Yesterday. Tomorrow. The conversation that didn’t go well. The decision we need to make. The email waiting for us. The thing somebody said. The thing we wish we’d said. The thing we’re afraid might happen.

Our bodies remain in one place…while our minds travel everywhere else.

And meanwhile…the person sitting across from us is getting whatever part of us remains.

I wonder how much of our lives we spend waiting for the next thing.
We’re at work thinking about getting home. Then we get home and think about work.
We’re waiting for Friday. Then the weekend arrives and we’re already thinking about Monday.
We’re waiting for vacation. Then we’re on vacation checking email.
We’re waiting for the kids to get through this stage. Then suddenly we’re looking at pictures wondering where those years went.
We’re waiting for things to calm down. For the schedule to clear. For the problem to resolve. For life to finally become…whatever we think life is supposed to become. And somewhere along the way, we can miss something important: This is life.

Not someday. Not when things settle down. Not after the next accomplishment.

This…This conversation…This meal…This drive…This ordinary afternoon…This person sitting beside you.

I think sometimes we struggle to be present because we’re waiting for moments worthy of our attention. The vacation. The celebration. The anniversary. The big accomplishment. The important conversation.

But relationships aren’t primarily built during extraordinary moments. They’re built while doing dishes. Driving to the store. Standing in the driveway. Drinking coffee. Sitting on the couch. Walking the dog. Talking about absolutely nothing important.

Those moments don’t look significant while we’re living them. That’s exactly why they’re so easy to miss.
But someday…some of those ordinary moments may be the ones we’d give anything to have back.

Here’s something I need to remind myself: I cannot be everywhere. And neither can you.

You can’t respond to every message immediately.
You can’t solve every problem today.
You can’t attend every event.
You can’t satisfy every expectation.
You can’t carry tomorrow while fully living today.
And you can’t be completely present with everyone. But you can be present with the person who’s actually in front of you.

That’s the shift.

Presence isn’t about doing more. It may actually require doing less.Less checking. Less rushing. Less multitasking. Less worrying about what everyone else is doing. Less mentally living three hours ahead. So that wherever you are…you can actually be there.

People know when they have us. Children know. Friends know. Spouses know. Coworkers know. The people we lead know.

They know when we’re listening because we care…and when we’re listening because we’re waiting for them to finish.
They know when we’re sharing a meal…and when we’re simply eating in the same room.
They know when we’re spending time together…and when they’re competing with everything else in our lives.

We may not remember every conversation we have with someone. They probably won’t either. But over time, they will remember something: How it felt to be with us.

Did they feel rushed? Like an interruption? Like something else was always more important? Or did they experience: “When I’m with you, you’re with me.” That’s the kind of person I want to become.

Presence Is More Than Attention and maybe this is where Friday takes us beyond Wednesday. Wednesday was an exercise. Put the phone away. Listen. Ask, “Tell me more.”

But Friday Forward is about identity.
I don’t simply want to practice being present when I remember.
I want presence to become part of the way I move through life.
When I’m working…work.
When I’m resting…rest.
When I’m listening…listen.
When I’m celebrating…celebrate.
When I’m grieving…allow myself to grieve.
When I’m with someone I love…be with them.

Instead of always being halfway into whatever comes next.

Here’s the uncomfortable truth. If you decide to be fully present somewhere…you will miss something somewhere else. A notification. A conversation. An update. An email.Something happening online. Something somebody else is doing. And maybe that’s okay.

Because we’re so afraid of missing what’s happening somewhere else…that sometimes we miss what’s happening right in front of us.

Maybe FOMO has had the wrong target all along. Maybe the thing we should actually fear missing is:
The story our child is telling.
The laugh around the table.
The conversation with a friend.
The quiet morning.
The person who needs us.
The ordinary moment we’ll someday wish we could experience one more time.

This week, we started with a phone sitting on a table. But this was never really about phones. It was about presence.

So here’s the commitment I want us to carry forward: “When I’m with someone, I want them to experience that I’m actually with them.”
That won’t happen perfectly.
We’ll get distracted.
Our minds will wander.
The phone will buzz.
Life will interrupt.

When that happens…come back.
Look up.
Listen again.
Return to the room.
Return to the person.
Return to the moment.

Be where your feet are. Because your feet have a way of reminding you of something your mind sometimes forgets: This is where your life is happening right now.

Reflection Question: Where does your mind usually go when it pulls you away from the people and moments right in front of you? Yesterday? Tomorrow? Work? Your phone? Worry? What’s next?
Notice it. And when you catch yourself leaving…come back.

Because strong relationships aren’t built simply by spending time together. They’re built when, during that time…we actually show up.

Don’t spend your whole life somewhere other than where you are. Be where your feet are.

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Wednesday Walk, September 2nd, 2026: “Put It Away”

Give one person something increasingly rare: your full attention.

There’s a strange thing many of us do when we’re talking with someone. We put our phone down…right beside us. And somehow we count that as putting it away. It’s face down. We’re not touching it. We’re not scrolling. We’re being good. Until…Bzzzz.

And suddenly there’s a question sitting in the back of our mind. Who was that? Was it important? Did somebody need me? Should I check?

We may never pick up the phone. But part of our attention already did.

Monday, we talked about The Phone on the Table and how something doesn’t have to interrupt a conversation to change it.

Today, we’re going to do something about it. And it’s ridiculously simple.

For one conversation…Put it away. Not face down. Not on silent beside you. Not balanced on your knee. Actually… away.

I think most of us have developed an impressive ability to do several things at once. We can answer an email while listening to someone talk. We can watch television while scrolling. We can eat dinner while checking messages. We can participate in a meeting while mentally working on another project. We call it multitasking.

And sometimes it’s necessary. But relationships don’t seem to respond particularly well to multitasking. Because there’s a difference between hearing someone and giving someone your attention.

You can hear every word they say…and still communicate: “I’m only partially here.” And people can feel the difference.

Imagine you’re telling someone something that matters to you. Maybe you’re excited. Maybe you’re struggling. Maybe you’re trying to explain something that’s difficult to put into words.

And while you’re talking…they glance at their phone. Then back at you. Then their watch buzzes. They check it. Then: “Sorry. Keep going.”

So you keep going. But something inside you has already adjusted. Maybe you shorten the story. Maybe you leave something out. Maybe you decide: “It’s not that important.”

That’s the part I think we underestimate. Distraction doesn’t always end the conversation. Sometimes it simply changes how much of ourselves we’re willing to bring into it.

There’s something powerful that happens when another person realizes: You’re not going anywhere. You’re listening. You’re not rushing them. You’re not checking what’s happening somewhere else. You’re not waiting for an escape.

Suddenly they may tell you the part they weren’t planning to tell you. The conversation gets a little deeper. The answer to: “How are you?” moves beyond: “Fine.”

Because attention creates space. And space creates safety. And safety is often where relationships begin to deepen.

But putting the phone away is only half of today’s challenge. Because there’s another distraction we carry around that doesn’t have a screen. Our response.

Someone is talking…and we’re already preparing what we’re going to say.
They tell a story. We remember a better story.
They explain a problem. We’re already building the solution.
They share something painful. We’re searching for advice.
And sometimes we miss what they’re actually saying because we’re too busy deciding what we’re going to say next.

Listening isn’t simply waiting politely for your turn. It’s being curious enough to stay with someone else’s words. Instead of immediately responding, maybe ask: “What happened next?” “How did that make you feel?” “Tell me more about that.”

Three simple words can completely change a conversation: “Tell me more.”

This one is difficult for some of us. Someone tells us about a problem…and immediately we want to fix it. Here’s what you should do.
Have you tried this? You need to call this person.
Here’s what happened to me. Here’s what I would do.

Sometimes that’s helpful. Sometimes people genuinely want advice. But sometimes…they just want to be heard.

There’s a question I’ve found incredibly useful: “Do you want me to help you think through this, or do you just need me to listen?”

That’s a very different kind of presence. Because now the conversation isn’t about demonstrating what I know. It’s about discovering what you need.

Here’s the good news. You don’t have to become completely unavailable to the rest of the world all day. You have responsibilities. People may genuinely need to reach you. Work still exists. Life still happens.

This isn’t about throwing your phone into the ocean. It’s about intentionally creating moments when another person doesn’t have to compete for you.

Maybe it’s twenty minutes. Maybe ten. Maybe one cup of coffee. One meal. One walk. One conversation.

But during that time…be there.

Ten minutes of someone’s complete attention can feel more meaningful than an hour with someone who’s only half-present.

Choose one person today. And have one conversation where you intentionally remove the distractions.
Before the conversation:
1. Put the phone away. Not face down. Out of reach. Out of sight.
2. Look at them. Notice the person in front of you.
3. Don’t prepare your response while they’re speaking. Stay with their words.
4. Ask one follow-up question. Try: “Tell me more.” And then…listen again.

That’s it. No enormous relationship strategy. No complicated communication technique. Just one person. One conversation. Your full attention.

And here’s the second half of today’s experiment: Pay attention to what changes.
Does the conversation last longer?
Do they tell you something you didn’t expect?
Do you notice something you’d normally miss?
Do they seem more relaxed?
Do you feel different?

Maybe nothing dramatic happens. That’s okay. Because relationships aren’t usually transformed through one extraordinary conversation. They’re strengthened through ordinary moments where someone repeatedly experiences: “When I’m with you, you’re actually with me.”

Reflection Question: Who has been receiving the leftovers of your attention when they deserve more of the real thing?

You don’t have to fix every relationship today. You don’t have to become perfectly present.

Just practice.
One person.
One conversation.
Put it away.
Look up.
Ask: “Tell me more.”
And listen.

Because sometimes the best way to tell someone they matter… is to stop looking everywhere else.

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Monday Moment, August 31st, 2026: “The Phone on the Table”

You don’t have to be looking at it for it to change the conversation.

Have you ever noticed what happens when someone puts their phone on the table? They don’t even have to touch it. It just sits there. Face up. Quiet. Waiting. And then…it lights up. For half a second, their eyes move. Maybe yours do too. They don’t pick it up. They don’t answer the message. They don’t stop the conversation. But something changed.

For just a moment…someone who wasn’t even in the room entered the conversation.

I’ve been thinking about that because we’re beginning a new season of The Way Forward. For the last several weeks, we’ve talked about living intentionally. Courage. Peace. Influence. Resilience. Generosity. Legacy. But now we’re turning our attention toward something we can’t build alone.

Relationships, And maybe the best place to begin isn’t with communication…Or conflict…Or forgiveness.

Maybe it begins with something much simpler – Being here.

We live in an interesting time. We’ve never been more connected. And sometimes…we’ve never been more distracted.

We can sit across from someone we love while simultaneously being connected to hundreds of other people. A text arrives. An email appears. Someone comments. The watch vibrates. A headline pops up. A notification says something happened somewhere…and suddenly part of us leaves the room.

Not physically. We’re still sitting there. Still nodding. Still occasionally saying: “Uh-huh.” But our attention has moved somewhere else. And perhaps the person sitting across from us can feel it.

There’s something incredibly powerful about someone’s undivided attention. Think about the last time somebody really listened to you. They weren’t checking their phone. They weren’t looking around the room. They weren’t waiting for their turn to talk. They weren’t trying to fix you. They were simply…there.

You probably felt it. Because attention communicates something words sometimes can’t. It says:
You matter.
What you’re saying matters.
I’m not in a hurry to be somewhere else.

And the opposite communicates something too. Even when we don’t intend it.

Every glance toward the screen can quietly say: Something else might be more important than this.

That’s probably not what we mean. But relationships aren’t built only on what we intend. They’re also built on what other people experience.


Now, before we declare war on technology…the phone isn’t actually the problem.

I like my phone. You probably like yours. They help us work. Connect. Navigate. Remember things. Take pictures. Keep up with people we love.

The problem isn’t the device. It’s divided attention.

Because we can put the phone away and still be somewhere else.
We can sit at dinner…thinking about work.
We can listen to our spouse…while mentally preparing tomorrow’s schedule.
We can spend time with our children…while worrying about something that hasn’t happened yet.
We can have a conversation…while silently rehearsing what we’re going to say next.

Our body is present. Our mind isn’t. And maybe that’s the deeper challenge. Presence isn’t simply putting the phone down. It’s bringing yourself back into the room.

Here’s what makes presence difficult. Most meaningful moments don’t tell us they’re meaningful while they’re happening. It’s just dinner. Just another drive. Just coffee. Just someone telling you about their day. Just your child asking another question. Just a friend stopping by. Just an ordinary conversation. So we assume there will be another one.

And usually there is…Until eventually there isn’t.

Looking back, some of the moments we treasure most weren’t extraordinary at all. They became extraordinary because of who was there. That’s why I don’t want to spend my entire life waiting for the important moments. I want to become better at recognizing:This might be one of them.

Last week we talked about legacy. We asked what would continue growing because we were here. Maybe this week begins with an even more immediate question: While I’m here… am I actually here?

Because one of the greatest gifts we can give another person doesn’t cost anything. Our attention. Not forever. Not every minute of every day. That’s unrealistic.But for this conversation? This meal? This cup of coffee? This walk? This moment? I’m here.

You don’t have to compete with everyone else who could potentially reach me. You have me. That’s increasingly rare. Which means it may also be increasingly valuable.

We sometimes think strong relationships are created through big moments. Vacations. Anniversaries. Celebrations. Important conversations.

Those matter. But most relationships aren’t built there.

They’re built in thousands of tiny interactions. The morning conversation. The ride home. The five minutes standing in the kitchen. The phone call. The text. The question: “How was your day?”

And whether we actually listen to the answer.

Relationships rarely fall apart because of one missed moment. Sometimes they simply weaken because, over time…we stopped being fully present for the moments that were building them.

Today, I want you to notice your attention. Not judge it. Just notice it.

When you’re talking with someone, ask yourself: “Am I actually here?”

Where are your eyes? Where is your mind? Are you listening? Or waiting to respond?
Are you thinking about what’s next? Are you checking what’s happening somewhere else?

And here’s an even harder question: When was the last time someone had your complete, undivided attention?

Now turn it around: When was the last time you gave someone yours?

Maybe today you don’t need another productivity trick. Maybe you don’t need to accomplish one more thing. Maybe one of the most meaningful things you do today is simply…put the phone away.

Look up…Listen…Stay…Be where your feet are.

Because before we can strengthen our relationships…we have to actually be there for them.

Reflection Question: Who in your life needs more of your presence – not more of your advice, solutions, or stuff – just more of you?

Maybe strengthening our relationships doesn’t begin with saying something profound.
Maybe it begins by communicating something without saying anything at all: “You have my attention.”

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Season 2: Living With Intention

Friday Forward, August 28th, 2026: “Plant Trees”

Build something today that someone else may enjoy tomorrow.

There’s an old idea I’ve always loved. A society becomes stronger when people are willing to plant trees…knowing they’ll never sit beneath their shade.

Think about that. Someone digs a hole. Plants a seedling. Waters it. Protects it. Tends it. And for years, there may not be much to show for the work. The tree is small. The shade is almost nonexistent. The person planting it may never see what it eventually becomes. But they plant it anyway.

Why? Because someday…someone else will need the shade. That’s legacy.

If we’re honest, most of us like seeing the results of what we do. We want to know it mattered. We want to see the person succeed. We want the program to grow. We want the idea to work. We want someone to say thank you. We want evidence that the time, sacrifice, energy, or resources we invested actually accomplished something.

There’s nothing wrong with that. It’s encouraging to see fruit from something you’ve planted. But some of the most meaningful things we do in life…may not fully bloom while we’re watching.

You may teach something today that someone understands ten years from now.
You may encourage a person who doesn’t believe you yet.
You may introduce two people and never know what comes from their relationship.
You may teach your children something they won’t appreciate until they’re raising children of their own.
You may help build an organization that becomes something completely different after you’re gone.
You may plant an idea in someone’s mind that doesn’t take root for years.

And you may never know.
That’s the difficult part of legacy.
Sometimes…you have to plant without knowing whether you’ll ever see the tree.

There’s something quietly powerful about doing something good that doesn’t ultimately benefit us. No recognition. No plaque. No credit. No guarantee that anyone will remember who started it. Just the knowledge that something is better because we were willing to invest in it. That’s a different way of measuring success.

We usually ask: What did I accomplish?
Legacy asks: What did I help make possible?
Those aren’t always the same thing.

Maybe you didn’t become the person standing on the stage.
But you encouraged them when they were ready to quit.

Maybe you didn’t lead the organization twenty years from now.
But you helped build the foundation it stands on.

Maybe your name isn’t attached to the idea.
But you gave someone the confidence to try it.

Maybe nobody knows what you did.
But somebody is sitting in the shade.

That may be enough.

Here’s where legacy gets uncomfortable for leaders. Sometimes we measure our importance by how much people need us. We like being the person with the answer. The person everyone calls. The person who knows how everything works. The person who can fix it. Being needed feels important. But there’s a problem.

If everything falls apart when you leave, you didn’t build a legacy. You built dependency.

Legacy does something different.
Legacy teaches someone else what you know.
Legacy gives away responsibility.
Legacy lets another person try.
Legacy allows someone else to make mistakes.
Legacy creates systems that don’t depend on one personality.
Legacy develops people who may eventually do things better than you did.

And perhaps one of the greatest accomplishments of leadership is reaching the point where something meaningful continues…without needing you at the center of it.

That’s not becoming irrelevant. That’s multiplication.

You planted the tree. Someone else is sitting underneath it. And maybe they’re planting another one.

Not every tree we’re planting is an organization or project. Most of them probably aren’t. They’re people. The child you’re raising. The young person you’re encouraging. The employee you’re developing. The volunteer you’re trusting with responsibility. The friend you’re walking beside. The person you keep believing in even though they haven’t figured everything out yet.

You may look at them today and see a seedling. Small. Uncertain. Still growing. Don’t underestimate what’s happening beneath the surface.

Roots are forming. Character is developing. Confidence is growing. Ideas are taking shape. Keep watering. Keep encouraging. Keep showing up. You don’t know who they’ll become. And you certainly don’t know who they’ll eventually influence.

And now the tree you planted is producing seeds of its own.

One of the hardest tests of legacy is:
Can you build something…and be okay if somebody else gets recognized for it?
Can you teach someone…and celebrate when they surpass you?
Can you open a door…and be genuinely happy when they walk farther through it than you ever did?
Can you plant the tree…without carving your name into the trunk?

That’s when you know the work was really about the shade. Not the planter. And there’s tremendous freedom in that. Because once everything doesn’t have to come back to us…we can invest much more freely.

This Is Bigger Than Being Remembered and maybe that’s the biggest thing I’ve realized during this week. Legacy isn’t really about being remembered. That still makes legacy about us.
Maybe the better goal isn’t: “I hope people remember my name.”
Maybe it’s: “I hope something good keeps growing because I was here.”

A person became more confident. A family became stronger. A community became healthier. Someone discovered hope. Someone learned something. Someone was given an opportunity. Someone felt loved. Someone became more generous because generosity was shown to them. And perhaps they’ll never even know where it originally started. That’s okay.

Because legacy isn’t about making sure people remember who planted the tree. It’s about making sure there are trees.

This weekend, identify one tree you’re willing to plant even if you never personally sit beneath it.

Maybe it’s a person you can mentor. A relationship you can strengthen. A system you can improve. Knowledge you can pass along. An opportunity you can create. A community you can invest in. A story you need to preserve. Something you can begin that may take years to become what it could be.

Then make this commitment: “I will invest part of my life in something that can keep growing without me.”

Plant it. Water it. Encourage it. Protect it.

And when the time comes…let somebody else sit beneath it.

Reflection Question: What are you building right now that could continue making life better for someone else – even if your name is eventually forgotten?

Because maybe a meaningful life isn’t measured only by what we accomplish. It’s also measured by what keeps growing because we were here.

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Wednesday Walk, August 26th, 2026: “Leave Something Behind”

Give someone something today that they can carry into tomorrow.

Every time you leave a room…you leave something behind.
Not your keys. Not your coffee cup. Not the jacket you forgot on the back of the chair. Something else.

An impression. A feeling. A word. Maybe encouragement. Maybe confidence. Maybe laughter. Maybe hope.
Or maybe frustration. Tension. Doubt. Hurt.

Most of the time, we don’t think much about it. We have the conversation. We finish the meeting. We send the text. We say goodbye. We move on. But something from that interaction often stays behind.

And sometimes…it travels farther than we ever will.

Monday, we talked about The Dash. That little line between two dates represents an entire life. And we asked: If the way I’m living right now became the story of my life, would it tell the story I want told?

But today is Wednesday Walk. Today we do something with that question. Because legacy can sound enormous. We imagine decades. Accomplishments. Organizations. Children and grandchildren. Things carrying our names long after we’re gone.

But maybe legacy happens on a much smaller scale. Maybe you can leave something behind today. Something another person can carry with them.

Some of the most valuable things we possess aren’t things at all. Think about what you know today that you didn’t know ten years ago. Lessons you learned. Mistakes you survived. Things you discovered the hard way. Experiences that changed you.

Someone else may be standing today where you stood years ago. What if you gave them some of what you’ve learned?
Tell them: “Here’s what I wish someone had told me.” That’s legacy.

Maybe you’ve developed a skill. Teach it.
Maybe you know someone who could open a door. Make the introduction.
Maybe you see potential in someone who doesn’t see it in themselves yet. Tell them.
Maybe someone has influenced your life but has no idea. Write the note.
Maybe there’s a story your children or grandchildren need to know. Tell it.
Maybe someone is struggling with something you’ve already survived. Sit beside them.

You don’t need to have all the answers. Sometimes simply being able to say…“I’ve been there too.” …gives someone enough hope to keep moving.

There’s something else I’ve been thinking about. We often save our best words for when people can’t hear them. Think about funerals. People stand up and tell incredible stories. They talk about someone’s kindness. Their generosity. Their humor. The difference they made. How much they were loved.

And sometimes I wonder: Did we tell them?
While they were here? Did they know? Why do we wait? Why not tell people now?

“You made a difference in my life.”
“I’m proud of you.”
“I see something in you.”
“Thank you for what you taught me.”
“I believe in you.”

Those aren’t small words. They become things people carry. Maybe for years.

Here’s where legacy becomes really interesting. The best things we leave behind don’t stop with the person who receives them.
You encourage someone…and they become more encouraging.
You mentor someone…and years later they mentor someone else.
You give someone an opportunity…and someday they open a door for another person.
You show someone grace…and perhaps they become a little more gracious.
You believe in someone…and eventually they become the person who believes in somebody else.

Now what you gave has traveled farther than you ever could. That’s legacy. It isn’t simply something someone remembers about you. It’s something they received from you…and then carried forward.

Sometimes we think influence requires an audience. Legacy requires accomplishment. Impact requires recognition. It doesn’t.

Some of the people who shaped you most probably never stood on a stage. A parent. A grandparent. A teacher. A coach. A pastor. A friend. A coworker. Someone who took five minutes when you needed five minutes. Someone who said the right thing at exactly the right time. Someone who saw something in you before you saw it yourself.

They left something behind. And you’re still carrying it. Which means you can do the same.

I want this one to be very specific. Choose one person today. Not everybody. One. Then ask:
“What can I intentionally put into this person’s life that they can carry forward?”

Maybe it’s:
Encouragement – Tell them what you see in them.
Wisdom – Share something you learned the hard way.
Opportunity – Make the introduction or open the door.
Gratitude – Tell them specifically how they’ve affected your life.
Knowledge – Teach them something you know.
Hope – Remind them why they shouldn’t quit.
Your story – Tell them something from your journey that might help theirs.

Then do it. Call them. Text them. Write the note. Sit down with them. Make the introduction. Have the conversation.

But don’t just think about it. Before today ends, leave something good in someone that they can carry into tomorrow.

What do you have inside you that could become part of someone else’s future if you were willing to give it away?

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Monday Moment, August 24th, 2026: “The Dash”

You’re Writing the Middle Right Now

Eventually, almost every life can be reduced to something surprisingly small. A name. A date. A dash. Another date: 19__ — 20__

Two dates separated by one tiny line. The first date tells us when someone arrived. The second tells us when they left. But the dash? That’s where everything happened. Every laugh…Every mistake…Every risk…Every relationship…Every disappointment…Every person they loved…Every person they hurt…Every apology…Every act of kindness…Every ordinary Tuesday nobody thought mattered.

An entire life…represented by one little line.

And I’ve been thinking about that because we often talk about legacy as though it’s something we leave behind someday. Something people talk about after we’re gone. But I don’t think that’s when legacy begins. Legacy is being written while we’re still here.

Right now. Today. In the middle.

We are alwayys Leaving Something Behind. Walk out of a room after spending time with someone and you’ve probably left something behind. Maybe encouragement. Maybe laughter. Maybe confidence. Maybe peace.

Or…

Maybe tension. Maybe insecurity. Maybe frustration. Maybe someone wondering whether they mattered. That’s influence.

But when those moments are repeated over years…they become legacy. Legacy isn’t only the big thing with your name attached to it. It isn’t necessarily a building. A foundation. A book. A company. A ministry. A fortune. Or some extraordinary accomplishment people remember generations later.

Most of us won’t have streets named after us. And that’s okay. Because some of the most meaningful legacies will never have a plaque. They’re carried in people. A child who knows they were loved. Someone who believed in themselves because you believed in them first. A person who treats others with kindness because that’s how you treated them. Someone who leads differently because you gave them an opportunity. Someone who kept going because you told them they could. Those things don’t always make history books. But they make history in someone’s life.

I think one of the biggest threats to legacy is a word we use all the time: Someday. Someday I’ll spend more time with them. Someday I’ll make the call. Someday I’ll tell them how much they mean to me. Someday I’ll mentor someone. Someday I’ll write that story down. Someday I’ll pursue that thing I’ve always felt called to do. Someday I’ll stop being so busy. Someday I’ll become the person I know I should be. Someday.

But legacy isn’t built someday. It’s built on ordinary Wednesdays. In conversations that don’t feel historic. In decisions nobody applauds. In moments when we could hurry past someone…but choose to stop.

We’re always tempted to believe the meaningful part of our life is coming later. After the promotion. After the kids grow up. After things settle down. After we have enough money. After we have more time.

But what if this is it? Not the end. The middle. The part we’re going to look back on someday and realize was our life.

What Will They Remember? There’s a question people sometimes ask when talking about legacy: “What do you want people to say about you when you’re gone?”

It’s not a bad question. But I think there’s a better one: What are people experiencing from you while you’re still here? Because whatever we hope people remember later should probably be something we’re giving them now.

If you want to be remembered as kind…be kind today.
If you want people to remember that you encouraged them…encourage them now.
If you want your family to know they mattered more than your work…make sure your calendar tells them that.
If you want to be remembered as someone who made room for others…pull up the chair now.
If you want people to say you loved well…love them while they can still experience it.

Legacy isn’t about controlling what people say about us someday. It’s about intentionally choosing what we’re giving them today.

Legacy also forces us to confront something uncomfortable. Some things that consume enormous amounts of our energy today probably won’t matter nearly as much as we think.

The argument you absolutely had to win. The person you needed to impress. The comparison that made you miserable. The number of likes. The title. The status. The grudge you’ve been carrying. The thing somebody said three years ago that you’re still replaying.

We can spend enormous portions of our dash on things that won’t deserve even a sentence in the story. And meanwhile…The people who matter are sitting right beside us. The opportunity to encourage someone is passing. The conversation we need to have keeps getting postponed. The life we’re waiting to live is already happening. That’s why legacy isn’t primarily about the end of life. It’s about paying attention to the life we’re living now.

You’re Writing the Middle You can’t change the first date. And thankfully, most of us don’t know the second. But today? Today belongs to the dash. You get to decide what happens in this little piece of it. You can make the call. You can forgive. You can say thank you. You can tell someone you love them. You can encourage someone. You can start something. You can stop something. You can invest in someone. You can choose to be present. You can decide that the things consuming your life aren’t actually the things you want defining it.

Because your legacy isn’t waiting for you at the end. You’re writing it right now. One conversation. One decision. One relationship. One ordinary day at a time.

Today, don’t ask yourself to write your obituary. That’s not the point. Instead, ask something much more immediate: If the way I’m living right now became the story of my life, would it tell the story I want told? Don’t answer based on your intentions. Look at your actual life.

Your calendar.
Your conversations.
Your priorities.
Your attention.
The way you treat people.
The things receiving your energy.

Because those are the sentences being written. And if you don’t like where the story is going…here’s the good news: You’re still in the middle. You can write differently today.

What are you spending your “dash” on that probably doesn’t deserve as much of your life as you’re giving it? And what deserves more? Because someday…the middle will become the story. But today? You’re still writing it.

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Friday Forward, August 21st, 2026: “Live Open Handed”

Don’t make generosity something you occasionally do. Make it the way you live.

This week started with a fist. Closed. Tight. Protecting whatever was inside. On Monday, we asked: What am I holding so tightly that I no longer have room to receive – or give – something new?

Then Wednesday, we opened our hands and looked at what was already there. Time. Encouragement. Experience. Connections. Opportunity. Attention. Maybe even something as simple as our presence. And we asked: Who could use some of what I already have?

But today is Friday Forward. So we’re not simply asking what we’ve learned this week. We’re asking: What do I want to carry into the future? And maybe the answer is surprisingly simple. Open hands.

Most of us think about generosity as something we do. We give a donation. We buy someone lunch. We volunteer. We help someone. We give something away.

Those are generous acts. And they’re good. But what if generosity could become something deeper? What if generosity wasn’t simply something we occasionally did…but part of the kind of person we were becoming? There’s a difference.

A generous act asks: “What can I give?”
A generous life asks: “How can I live?”
That’s a much bigger question. Because suddenly generosity isn’t confined to our wallet. It shows up everywhere.

Open-Handed With Credit
Someone else has a great idea. Do you need everyone to know you helped? Or can you simply say: “That was their idea. They did a great job.” That’s generosity.

Someone receives an opportunity you wanted. Can you genuinely celebrate them? That’s generosity too.

Someone succeeds in an area where you’re still struggling. Can their success inspire you instead of threaten you?

Open-handed people don’t need every spotlight. Sometimes they enjoy pointing it toward someone else.

Open-Handed With Time
Time may be one of the hardest things for us to give. Because most of us already feel like we don’t have enough. We’re busy. Schedules are full. Phones are buzzing. There’s always somewhere else to be. But sometimes generosity looks like putting the phone down. Sitting a few minutes longer. Listening to the story you’ve already heard. Calling someone you haven’t talked to in a while. Stopping long enough to notice the person in front of you. Not because you have unlimited time. But because you’ve decided some people are worth interrupting your schedule for.

Open-Handed With Encouragement
Here’s something amazing about encouragement: Giving it away doesn’t leave you with less. You can tell someone:
“I believe in you.”
“You’re doing a great job.”
“I’m proud of you.”
“I’m glad you’re here.”
“You handled that well.”
“Don’t give up.”
And somehow, your supply doesn’t decrease. Yet we can be strangely stingy with encouragement. We think something kind about someone… and never say it. Why?

If you’re thinking something good about someone…say it. Give it away. Someone may need those words more than you realize.

Open-Handed With Opportunity
Maybe you have access someone else doesn’t. A relationship. A connection. A seat at a table. A little influence. A door you can open. Open-handed living asks: “Who else could benefit from this?”

Maybe generosity looks like making an introduction. Recommending someone’s name. Inviting someone into the room. Teaching someone what took you years to learn. Helping someone avoid a mistake you had to make yourself.

Sometimes the greatest thing we can give another person isn’t something we own. It’s access to something we’ve been given.

Open-Handed With Grace
And then there’s perhaps the hardest one. Grace.
People will disappoint us.
They’ll misunderstand us.
They’ll say the wrong thing.
They’ll make mistakes.
So will we.

Living open-handed doesn’t mean ignoring harmful behavior.
It doesn’t mean abandoning boundaries.
It doesn’t mean pretending something didn’t hurt.
But it does mean refusing to make people earn every ounce of kindness we give them.

Sometimes generosity looks like giving someone room to be human. Another chance. A little patience. The benefit of the doubt.

The same kind of grace we hope someone gives us when we’re the one who gets it wrong.

Open Hands Don’t Mean Empty Hands There’s something important we need to say.Living open-handed does not mean giving until there’s nothing left of you.
Generosity without wisdom can become exhaustion.
Generosity without boundaries can become resentment.
Generosity doesn’t require saying yes to everyone.
Sometimes the generous answer is still: “No.”
Sometimes you need rest.
Sometimes you need boundaries.
Sometimes you need to protect something important.

Open-handed living isn’t about becoming empty.
It’s about refusing to become clenched.
There’s a difference.
One comes from wisdom.
The other often comes from fear.

I don’t know exactly what I’ll have five years from now. I don’t know what opportunities will come. What resources I’ll have. How much time I’ll have. What doors will open. But I do get to decide something today.

I don’t want fear to make me grip everything tightly.
I don’t want someone else’s success to threaten me.
I don’t want to become so busy that I stop noticing people.
I don’t want encouragement to remain trapped inside my head.
I don’t want to sit at tables and forget to pull up another chair.

I want to live differently.
I want to live with open hands.
Hands willing to give.
Hands willing to receive.
Hands willing to help.
Hands willing to release.
Hands willing to applaud someone else.
Hands willing to lift someone who’s struggling.
And hands humble enough to reach out when I’m the one who needs help.

Because maybe that’s what generosity really becomes.Not an event. Not a donation. Not a moment. A posture. A way of moving through the world.

This week, don’t simply ask: “Was I generous?” Make a commitment about the person you’re becoming.

If generosity became a posture instead of an occasional action, what would change about the way you move through the world? Maybe the goal isn’t simply to have more so we can someday give more.

Maybe the better goal is this:
Whatever comes into my hands, I will hold it loosely enough that some of it can become a blessing to someone else. Open your hands. And keep them open. Live open-handed.

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Wednesday Walk, August 19th, 2026: “Give What You Have”

Stop waiting until you have more to start giving something.

There’s a sentence we tell ourselves that sounds completely reasonable: “When I have more…”
When I have more money…I’ll give.
When I have more time…I’ll volunteer.
When life slows down…I’ll be more available.
When I’m more successful…I’ll help someone else get started.
When I know more…I’ll mentor someone.
When I have my own life figured out…I’ll be there for somebody else.

Someday…When I have more.

The problem is…“more” has a habit of moving.

We reach one level and discover another. We finally make a little more money, but now our expenses have grown. We create some space in our schedule, and something else fills it. We gain experience and realize how much we still don’t know.

So generosity keeps getting postponed. Not because we’re selfish. But because we’ve convinced ourselves that generosity requires something we don’t currently possess.Maybe that’s the assumption we need to challenge today.

What if generosity doesn’t begin with what you don’t have? What if it begins with noticing what you do? Look at What’s Already in Your Hands

Monday, we talked about The Closed Fist. We asked: “What am I holding so tightly that I no longer have room to receive—or give—something new?”

Today, open your hand. And look at what’s actually there. Maybe you don’t have much money to give. Okay. What else do you have?
Do you have twenty minutes?
Do you know how to fix something?
Can you cook?
Can you listen?
Can you make someone laugh?
Do you know somebody who knows somebody?
Can you introduce two people who should meet?
Do you have an extra seat at your table?
Can you write an encouraging note?
Can you teach someone something you’ve learned?
Can you pick up the phone?
Can you show up?

Because generosity has never been limited to money. We all carry something.

The Thing That Seems Small to You May Not Be Small to Someone Else This is where I think we underestimate ourselves. We look at what we have and think: “That’s not enough to matter.”
It’s only a phone call.
It’s only an hour.
It’s only an introduction.
It’s only a meal.
It’s only encouragement.
It’s only listening.

But “only” depends entirely on which side of the gift you’re standing.

An hour may not seem like much to you.
To someone who’s lonely, it may mean everything.

An introduction may take you thirty seconds.
To someone looking for an opportunity, it could change their future.

A meal may seem ordinary.
To someone who’s overwhelmed, it may communicate:“Someone thought about me.

Encouragement may cost you nothing.
To someone who’s ready to quit, it could be exactly what helps them keep going.

We often measure generosity by the cost to the giver. Maybe we should sometimes measure it by the impact on the receiver. What feels small in your hand…may become enormous in someone else’s.

There’s another reason we miss opportunities to be generous.
We’re busy.
We move quickly.
We have places to go.
Messages to answer.
Deadlines to meet.
Problems of our own to solve.

And generosity often begins with something that doesn’t sound very impressive: Noticing.
Noticing the person sitting alone.
Noticing someone struggling.
Noticing the coworker who’s unusually quiet
Noticing the neighbor who could use a hand.
Noticing someone doing good work who hasn’t been thanked.
Noticing the person who needs an opportunity.
Noticing the person who’s always giving to everyone else.

You can’t give what you have if you never notice where it’s needed. Maybe one of the most generous things we can give another human being is simply our attention. To stop…To look…To listen…To ask: “How are you really doing?” And then stay long enough to hear the answer.

Don’t Decide for Someone Else That What You Have Isn’t Enough Sometimes we don’t offer what we have because we’ve already decided it isn’t valuable. We think:
“They probably don’t need this.”
“Someone else could help more.”
“I wouldn’t know what to say.”
“It’s really not that big of a deal.”

Maybe. But what if that’s not your decision to make?

Offer what you have. Let them decide whether it helps. You don’t have to solve someone’s life. You don’t have to rescue anyone. You don’t have to become responsible for everything they’re facing.

Sometimes generosity is simply saying: “This is what I have. If it helps, it’s yours.” That’s beautifully simple. No heroics. No recognition required. Just open hands.

Today, Ask yourself two questions: 1. What do I already have that I could give?
Then: 2. Who around me might need it? Now connect the two.

Reflection Question: What are you waiting to have “more” of before you’re willing to be generous with what you already have?

You may discover that you have far more to give than you thought. Generosity doesn’t require having everything. It simply asks us to do something with what we have.

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Monday Moment, August 17th, 2026: “The Closed Fist”

You can’t receive much when you’re holding everything tightly.

Try something for a moment. Make a fist. Close it tightly. Now imagine you’re holding something important inside it. Maybe money. Maybe your time. Maybe your plans. Maybe control. Maybe an opportunity. Maybe something you’re afraid you’ll lose. Hold tighter.

Now imagine someone wants to place something new into your hand. There’s a problem. There’s nowhere to put it. Your hand is already full.

I’ve been thinking about that because sometimes we talk about generosity as if it’s primarily about what we give away. Money. Food. Clothes. Resources.

Those things matter. But I think generosity begins somewhere much deeper. It begins with how tightly we hold our lives.

Most of us are holding something tightly. Our time. Our schedules. Our resources. Our expectations. Our comfort. Our opinions. Our plans for how life is supposed to happen.

Sometimes we hold them tightly because we’ve worked hard for them. Sometimes because we don’t have very much. Sometimes because we’ve lost something before.

And sometimes because we’re afraid there won’t be enough. Enough money. Enough time. Enough opportunity. Enough recognition. Enough love. Enough for us. So our instinct becomes: Hold on. Protect what you have. Make sure you’re okay first. Don’t give too much. Don’t risk too much. Don’t open your hand too far. Because what if you need it later?

That’s scarcity talking. And scarcity does something interesting to us. It doesn’t simply affect what we give. It affects how we see the world.

When we believe there isn’t enough, other people’s success can begin to feel threatening. Someone else’s opportunity feels like one less opportunity for us. Someone else’s recognition feels like we’re being overlooked. Someone else’s blessing somehow feels like our loss. So we grip tighter.

But generosity sees the world differently. Generosity says: Someone else’s success doesn’t diminish mine. There is enough encouragement to celebrate someone else. Enough kindness to give some away. Enough attention to notice another person. Enough grace to forgive. Enough room at the table to pull up another chair.

And maybe generosity has far less to do with what’s in our bank account than we’ve assumed. Some of the most generous people I’ve ever met didn’t have much money. But they had time. They listened. They encouraged. They shared what they had. They noticed people others walked past. They made room. They opened doors. They gave people opportunities. They celebrated someone else’s success without needing any recognition themselves. They lived with open hands.

And here’s what I’ve noticed about open hands. Yes..They allow things to leave. But they’re also the only hands capable of receiving something new.

A closed fist can protect what it already has. But it can’t receive much else.

Maybe that’s why living generously can feel frightening. Opening our hands requires trust. Trust that giving something away doesn’t automatically leave us empty. Trust that helping someone else move forward doesn’t move us backward. Trust that we don’t have to control everything. Trust that our worth isn’t determined by how much we possess, protect, or accomplish. And maybe there’s something you’re holding tightly today.

Not because you’re selfish. Maybe because you’re afraid. Afraid there won’t be enough. Afraid you’ll lose control. Afraid someone will take advantage of you. Afraid you’ll give and nothing will come back. Those fears are real.

Generosity doesn’t mean having no boundaries. It doesn’t mean saying yes to everyone. It doesn’t mean giving away what you genuinely need. And it certainly doesn’t mean allowing people to use you.

Generosity isn’t recklessness. It’s openness. It’s choosing not to live your entire life clenched.

Because there’s a cost to constantly holding everything tightly. Eventually…our possessions can possess us. Our schedules can control us. Our need for recognition can consume us. Our plans can become prisons. And the things we were afraid to lose become the very things keeping us from experiencing something new.

So maybe the question today isn’t: “What should I give away?”

Maybe the question comes before that. Look at your hands. Look at your life. Look at what you’re protecting. And ask: “What am I holding so tightly that I’ve stopped living with an open hand?”

Because generosity doesn’t begin when something leaves your hand. Generosity begins when you’re willing to open it.

Reflection Question: What are you holding so tightly that you no longer have room to receive—or give—something new?

Maybe this week doesn’t begin with giving something away. Maybe it simply begins…by opening your hand.

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Friday Forward, August 14th, 2026: “Still Standing”

Falling down doesn’t decide your future. What you do next does.

There are moments in life when simply being able to say…“I’m still here”…is an accomplishment. Maybe nobody applauded. Maybe there wasn’t a celebration. Maybe no one even knew how difficult it was. But you know.

You know what it took to keep going. You know the nights you wondered whether you could. You know the moments you almost quit. You know the disappointment you carried quietly. You know how many times you had to start again. And somehow…You’re still here.

This week, we’ve been talking about resilience. Monday, we looked at The Bent Tree. The wind changed its shape. But it didn’t stop its growth. Wednesday, we talked about The Next Step. You don’t need to know the whole road. You just need enough courage to move again.

And today, I want to finish with something I think we sometimes misunderstand. Resilience isn’t about never falling. It’s about deciding that falling doesn’t get the final word. Because you will fall. I will too. We’ll make bad decisions. We’ll trust the wrong person. We’ll miss opportunities. We’ll fail at things we thought we’d succeed at. We’ll get hurt. We’ll get tired. There will be moments when life knocks the wind completely out of us.

That’s not pessimism…That’s life.

So maybe the goal shouldn’t be building a life where nothing ever knocks us down. Maybe the goal is becoming the kind of person who knows what to do when it happens. Get back up. Not immediately. Not perfectly. And not always by yourself.

Sometimes getting back up means resting first. Sometimes it means asking someone to help you. Sometimes it means admitting that what you were doing wasn’t working. Sometimes it means letting go of the plan you were desperately trying to save. Sometimes it means starting over. And sometimes…getting back up simply means deciding: “This is not where my story ends.”

There’s an important difference between being knocked down and staying down. One happens to us. The other slowly becomes a decision. And I understand that sometimes getting back up takes longer than we’d like.

There are things that cannot simply be shaken off. Some losses need to be grieved.Some wounds need time.Some disappointments reshape us.

Resilience doesn’t demand that we pretend otherwise. But eventually, there comes a moment when we have to decide: Will what happened become the place where I stopped…or part of the story of how I kept going?

That’s Friday Forward. It’s not about looking backward and pretending the week was easy. It’s looking forward and deciding who you’re going to be when the next difficult day comes. Because another wind will blow. Another plan will change. Another disappointment will come. Another door will close.

And when it does…I want to remember what you already know. You’ve been bent before. You’ve taken the next step before. You’ve gotten back up before. And You can do it again.

Maybe that’s what resilience eventually gives us.Not the confidence that nothing bad will happen.But the confidence that when something does…It doesn’t have to be the end of us. Your scars don’t disqualify you. Your detours don’t define you. Your failures don’t get to write the last sentence. And the places where you’ve been bent aren’t necessarily the weakest parts of your story.

They may become the places where someone else someday looks at you and thinks: “If they kept going…maybe I can too.”

That’s another beautiful thing about resilience. Sometimes getting back up isn’t only for us. Someone is watching. A child. A friend. A coworker. A person walking through something you’ve already survived.

They don’t need to see someone who never struggled. They need to see someone who struggled…and kept going.

So don’t be ashamed of the bends. Don’t hide every scar. Don’t pretend you never fell.
Stand where you are today and recognize something worth celebrating: You’re still here.

And tomorrow? If necessary…You’ll get up again.

This weekend, I want you to make yourself one promise. Not: “I’ll never fall again.”
You can’t promise that. Instead, promise yourself: “The next time life knocks me down, I will not let that moment decide the rest of my story.”

What would change if you stopped measuring your strength by how often yo u’ve fallen and started measuring it by how many times you’ve chosen to rise again? Maybe resilience isn’t about having an unbroken story. Maybe it’s having a story that keeps going.

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Wednesday Walk, August 12th, 2026: “The Next Step”

You don’t have to know the whole way forward. You just have to take the next step.

Sometimes the hardest part isn’t surviving the storm. It’s figuring out what to do after it.

Monday, we talked about the bent tree. The tree that had been shaped by years of wind. Changed. Bent. But still growing.

There’s something hopeful about realizing that what happened to you didn’t finish you. But eventually, resilience asks something more. Now what?

You’ve survived.
You’re still standing.
So…
Where do you go from here?

That’s where many of us get stuck.

Because when life doesn’t go according to plan, we want another plan. Preferably the entire plan. We want to know where this road leads. How long it’s going to take. Whether we’re making the right decision. Whether we’ll fail again. Whether things will actually get better.

We want guarantees. And life rarely gives them. Instead, most of the time, we’re standing somewhere we didn’t expect to be… looking at a road we didn’t plan to travel… trying to decide what to do next. And maybe that’s where resilience becomes practical. Because resilience isn’t just surviving what happened.

It’s deciding to move again. Not ten miles. Not even one mile. Just the next step.

There’s something almost frustrating about how small a step can seem. You look at everything that needs to change and think: “What difference could this possibly make?”

You need a new job…and today’s step is updating one paragraph on your résumé.

You need to repair a relationship…and today’s step is sending one text.

You need to get your finances under control…and today’s step is opening the bill you’ve been avoiding.

You need to rebuild your confidence…and today’s step is trying something you’ve been afraid to try again.

You need to make a difficult change…and today’s step is finally admitting: “This isn’t working anymore.”

None of those steps solve everything. That’s why they’re easy to dismiss. We keep waiting for the big breakthrough. The dramatic turnaround. The moment everything suddenly makes sense. But most lives aren’t rebuilt that way. They’re rebuilt through small decisions repeated over time.

One phone call…One application…One apology…One conversation…One boundary…One walk around the block…One request for help…One more try.

A step doesn’t have to finish the journey to move you forward. That’s important. Because sometimes we refuse to take the next step simply because we can’t see step twenty-seven. We want certainty before movement.

But often..clarity comes because we moved. You take one step and see something you couldn’t see from where you were standing. Then you take another. And another. Until one day you look behind you and realize: “I’m not where I was anymore.”

That’s resilience too. Not simply enduring the storm. But refusing to let the place where the storm left you become your permanent address.

Maybe you’ve been waiting. Waiting until you’re confident. Waiting until you’re ready. Waiting until you’re certain. Waiting until you’re not afraid.

But what if readiness isn’t the requirement? What if willingness is?

You can be afraid and still take a step. You can be uncertain and still take a step. You can be tired and take a small step. You can have questions and still move. You can even take a step and discover it wasn’t quite the right one. Then adjust.

That’s part of moving forward too. Resilience doesn’t demand perfection. It asks for movement.

So don’t worry about the whole road today. Don’t solve next month. Don’t figure out next year. Don’t demand that you know exactly where everything is going. Look at what’s directly in front of you. And ask: What’s the next right step I can actually take? Then take it.

It may feel ridiculously small. Take it anyway. Because the distance between where you are and where you’re becoming…is traveled one step at a time.

Think about one area of your life where you’ve felt stuck. Don’t ask: “How do I fix all of this?” Ask: “What is one step I can take today?” Make it specific. Make it small. Make it something you can actually do.

Send the text…Make the appointment…Fill out the application…Have the conversation…Ask for help…Write the first sentence…Take the walk…Say no…Say yes…Start again.

Whatever your step is… Take it before today ends. Not tomorrow. Not someday. Today.

What are you waiting to completely understand before you’re willing to move? Maybe you don’t need the whole map. Maybe you just need enough courage for the next step.

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Monday Moment, August 10th, 2026: “The Bent Tree”

Maybe strength doesn’t always look like standing straight.

Drive down almost any coastline where the wind blows hard enough, long enough, and you’ll see them. Trees that don’t look quite right. They lean. Their trunks curve. Their branches stretch strangely in one direction. They don’t look like the perfectly shaped trees you see in photographs. They’ve been changed by the wind.

And yet…They’re still standing.

I’ve been thinking about those trees lately. Because somewhere along the way, many of us developed a strange definition of strength. We think strong people don’t bend. They don’t struggle. They don’t get overwhelmed. They don’t question themselves. They don’t have days when they want to quit.

Strong people stand tall. Always.At least that’s what we tell ourselves.

So when life bends us, we assume something must be wrong. Maybe we’re not strong enough. Maybe we’re failing. Maybe everyone else has figured something out that we haven’t.

But what if we’ve misunderstood strength?

Look again at the tree. The wind didn’t prove it was weak. The wind revealed what it was capable of surviving. It bent. It adjusted. It grew differently than it probably would have without the storms. But it kept growing. That’s resilience.

Resilience isn’t pretending the storm didn’t hurt. It isn’t smiling through pain so everyone thinks you’re okay. It isn’t refusing to ask for help. And it certainly isn’t never falling down.

Resilience is discovering that being bent isn’t the same thing as being broken.

Some of us have been bent by things we never expected. A relationship changed. A dream didn’t happen. A job ended. Someone disappointed us. We disappointed ourselves. A plan we were certain would work…didn’t.

Life didn’t ask permission. The wind simply started blowing. And sometimes it blew for a very long time.

Maybe you’re looking at your life today and realizing you don’t look exactly like the person you thought you’d become. There are curves you didn’t plan. Scars you didn’t ask for. Detours you wouldn’t have chosen.Parts of your story you’d rewrite if someone handed you the pen.

But you’re still here. Still learning. Still loving. Still hoping. Still trying. Still growing. Maybe differently than you imagined. But growing.

And perhaps that’s something we don’t celebrate enough. We celebrate victories. Promotions. Finish lines. Big breakthroughs.

We don’t celebrate nearly enough the person who simply got out of bed and tried again. The person who went back after failing. The person who apologized. The person who asked for help. The person who started over. The person who refused to let one terrible chapter become the ending of their story.

Those don’t always look like victories. But they are.

Because resilience isn’t always dramatic. Sometimes resilience sounds like: “I’ll try again tomorrow.” Sometimes it looks like showing up when you’d rather disappear. Sometimes it’s changing direction when the old direction no longer works. Sometimes it’s admitting: “I can’t do this the way I’ve been doing it.” And choosing another way.

That’s not weakness. That’s wisdom.

A rigid tree may look strong…until the wind comes. The tree that knows how to bend has a chance to remain standing.

Maybe the same is true for us.

So if life has bent you…Don’t immediately assume it has defeated you. Look closely.You might discover something else. You’re still standing. You’re still becoming. You’re still growing.

And perhaps the bends in your story aren’t evidence that you’re weaker than you thought. Maybe they’re evidence that you’ve survived more than you realize.

The wind may have changed your shape. But it doesn’t get to decide whether you keep growing. Not every difficult experience needs a silver lining. Some things simply hurt. But even there, you may discover strength you didn’t know you had.

Where have you mistaken being bent by life for being broken by it? Maybe you’re stronger than you’ve been giving yourself credit for.

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Friday Forward, August 7th, 2026: “Become the Climate”

Don’t just change the room. Become the kind of person who changes every room.

On Monday, we talked about the thermostat.
On Wednesday, we talked about the ripple.
But today, I want to take this one step further.

Because there’s a difference between occasionally doing something influential…
…and becoming an influential person.

There’s a difference between changing the temperature of one room…
…and carrying something with you wherever you go.

Think about climate. Weather changes constantly.Sunny one day. Cloudy the next. Warm this morning. Cold tonight. Weather is temporary.

Climate is what you can expect over time.
And I think people have climates too.

You probably know someone whose presence changes a room before they ever say much.
When they arrive, people relax.
They listen.
They smile.
They feel safe.
They feel encouraged.
There’s something consistent about them.

And unfortunately, we’ve probably all known the opposite.
Someone walks into the room and everyone gets tense.
People become careful about what they say.
Negativity seems to follow them.
Conflict seems to find them.
They bring their climate with them.

Which raises an uncomfortable question:
What climate do I carry?
Not on my best day.
Not when everything is going right.
Not when I’ve had enough sleep, everyone agrees with me, and nothing has irritated me.

What do people consistently experience when they’re around me?
Do they experience hope? Peace? Encouragement? Patience? Joy?

Or do they experience frustration? Criticism? Anxiety? Negativity? Constant urgency?

Because eventually, influence isn’t about what we occasionally say. It’s about what people consistently experience.

That’s why Friday Forward matters.
We’re not just asking what we did this week.
We’re asking: Who are we becoming?

Maybe Monday you decided to be the thermostat.
Maybe Wednesday you intentionally created a positive ripple.
Good.

But don’t let it end with this week.
Make it part of who you are.
Become someone who walks into tense places and brings calm.
Someone who walks into discouraged places and brings hope.
Someone who enters divided spaces and listens.
Someone who notices the overlooked person.
Someone whose words make people stronger instead of smaller.
Someone who leaves people believing tomorrow might be a little better than they thought it would be.

You won’t always get it right.
None of us will.
You’ll have bad days.
You’ll get frustrated.
You’ll say something you wish you could take back.
You’ll occasionally bring a storm into a room when you intended to bring sunshine.
That’s human.

But climate isn’t determined by one storm.
It’s determined by what happens consistently over time.
And that’s encouraging.
Because you don’t have to become this person overnight.
You simply have to keep choosing.
One conversation at a time.
One response at a time.
One room at a time.

Until eventually…
Kindness isn’t something you occasionally do. It’s who you are.
Encouragement isn’t something you remember to offer. It’s how you speak.
Peace isn’t something you search for. It’s something you carry.
Hope isn’t something you talk about. It’s something people experience when they’re around you. That’s influence.

Not followers.
Not titles.
Not applause.
Not how many people know your name.
Influence is what remains in people because you were there.

So as we finish this week, don’t just ask: “Did I change the atmosphere?”
Ask something bigger: “What kind of atmosphere am I becoming?”

Because eventually, you stop simply adjusting the thermostat.
You become the climate.
Make one commitment today about the kind of presence you want to carry into your future.
Complete this sentence: “When people are around me, I want them to experience __________.”

Maybe your word is: Hope…Peace…Courage…Kindness…Joy…Safety…Encouragement…Belonging.

Choose your word.
Write it somewhere you’ll see it.
Then begin living toward it.
Not just today.
From this day forward.

Reflection Question: If people experienced the same version of you consistently for the next five years, what kind of climate would you create around you?
And maybe the even more important question is: Is that the climate you want to leave behind?

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Wednesday Walk, August 5th, 2026: “The Ripple”

You’ll never know how far one moment of influence can travel.

Have you ever tossed a pebble into a perfectly still pond?
The splash lasts only a second.
But the ripples keep moving long after the pebble disappears.
Circle after circle.
Farther than you expected.
Until eventually, they reach a shoreline you never intended to touch.

Life works the same way.
Most of us underestimate our influence because we only notice the splash.
We rarely see the ripples.

A teacher encourages a struggling student.
Years later, that student becomes a teacher who encourages hundreds more.

A parent chooses patience instead of anger.
A child grows up believing home is a safe place.
That child eventually creates a safe home for their own family.

A stranger offers a smile to someone carrying a burden you’ll never know about.
That person walks into work just a little lighter…
…and unknowingly treats everyone else a little better because of it.

Influence rarely ends with the person standing in front of us.
It keeps traveling.

That’s both exciting…
…and sobering.

Because the opposite is true as well.
Harsh words create ripples.
Negativity creates ripples.
Bitterness creates ripples.

So do kindness…
Grace…
Encouragement…
Hope…

Every interaction sends something into the lives of others.
Whether we realize it or not.

Monday reminded us that we have a choice.
We can simply react to the atmosphere around us.
Or we can help change it.

Today, I want you to take one step further.
Become intentional.
Before every conversation today, ask yourself one question:
“If this moment creates a ripple…what do I want it to carry?”

Hope?
Patience?
Encouragement?
Joy?
Understanding?
Forgiveness?

Influence isn’t measured by how many people know your name.
It’s measured by what continues because you showed up.

The beautiful thing is this:
You don’t need a platform to change someone’s life.
You don’t need a microphone.
You don’t need a title.
You don’t need thousands of followers.

Sometimes all you need…
…is one conversation.
One kind word.
One moment of choosing grace instead of frustration.
One ripple.

And the best part?
You’ll probably never know how far it travels.
But that’s okay.

The purpose of a ripple isn’t to come back and thank the pebble.
It’s simply to keep moving.

Today, intentionally create one positive ripple.
Encourage someone.
Write the note.
Send the text.
Thank someone who often goes unnoticed.
Listen without interrupting.
Pray with someone.
Do one thing that makes another person’s day a little lighter.
Then let the ripple continue.

Reflection Question: If your words and actions today created ripples, what would they carry into someone else’s tomorrow?

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Monday Moment, August 3rd, 2026: “The Thermostat”

Are you changing the atmosphere – or just reacting to it?

It happens almost every day.
You walk into a room.
Maybe it’s your workplace.
Maybe it’s your home.
Maybe it’s a meeting.
Maybe it’s a family gathering.
And before anyone says a word…
You can feel the atmosphere.

Some rooms feel tense.
Others feel joyful.
Some feel heavy.
Others seem to breathe hope.

It’s amazing how quickly we recognize it.
What’s even more amazing…
Is how quickly we become part of it.

One frustrated person walks into the office.
Soon everyone feels frustrated.
Someone begins complaining.
Before long, complaining becomes the conversation.
Someone becomes anxious.
Suddenly the whole room feels anxious.
Atmospheres are contagious.

But here’s something worth noticing.
Every room has both a thermometer…
…and a thermostat.

A thermometer tells you what the temperature is.
It simply reacts.
“It’s tense.”
“It’s negative.”
“It’s stressful.”
“It’s hopeless.”

It’s accurate.
But it changes nothing.

A thermostat does something different.
It notices the temperature.
Then it quietly begins changing it.
One encouraging word.
One calm response.
One smile.
One thoughtful question.
One person choosing patience instead of irritation.
One person refusing to join the gossip.
One person bringing hope into a fearful conversation.

Little by little…
The atmosphere begins to change.

Here’s what I’ve learned.
Most of us spend our lives being thermometers.
We absorb whatever is happening around us.

If people complain…
We complain.
If people panic…
We panic.
If people criticize…
We criticize.

But influence begins the moment we stop asking,
“How is this room affecting me?”
and start asking,
“How can I affect this room?”

That doesn’t mean pretending everything is fine.
It doesn’t mean ignoring real problems.
It means choosing to become a source of steadiness instead of another source of chaos.

Everywhere you go today, you’ll have an opportunity.
Your family.
Your workplace.
The grocery store
The coffee shop.
Your church.
Your neighborhood.

You may not control the atmosphere you walk into.
But you do have a choice about what you contribute.

Influence rarely begins with a speech.
It usually begins with a single decision.
To bring something better than what you found.

And the beautiful thing is this:
People may forget exactly what you said.
But they’ll remember how they felt after being around you.

So today…
Don’t just measure the atmosphere.
Help change it.
Be the thermostat.

Before you walk into your next conversation, meeting, or room…
Pause for just a moment and ask yourself:
Am I about to reflect the atmosphere…or improve it?

Reflection Question: When people leave a conversation with you, what emotional temperature do they carry away?

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Friday Forward, July 31st, 2026: “Guard the Gate”

Peace isn’t something you find. It’s something you protect.

We’ve spent this week talking about peace.
On Monday, we noticed all the voices competing for our attention.
On Wednesday, we practiced creating room for silence.

But if we’re honest, we know something about peace.
It rarely stays on its own.

You can experience a beautiful, quiet morning…and lose your peace before breakfast.
One unexpected text.
One frustrating conversation.
One alarming headline.
One careless comment online.
One phone call.
One interruption.
One memory.

Sometimes it doesn’t take much.
That’s because peace isn’t just something we experience.
It’s something we choose to protect.

Imagine your life has a gate around it.
Every day, people, ideas, expectations, fears, opinions, and distractions walk up to that gate asking to come in.
Some belong.
Many don’t.

Yet too often, we leave the gate standing wide open.
We invite every opinion inside.
Every criticism.
Every fear.
Every comparison.
Every breaking news alert.
Every unnecessary argument.
Then we wonder why our hearts feel crowded.

Healthy people don’t build walls to keep everyone out.
But they do learn to build gates.

A gate opens with intention.
A gate closes with wisdom.
It asks simple questions.
Does this deserve my attention?
Will this help me grow?
Will carrying this make me more loving?
More hopeful?
More peaceful?
Or am I simply letting more noise inside?

The people I admire most aren’t the ones who never experience stress.
They’re the ones who’ve learned they don’t have to give every voice permission to move in.

Peace isn’t fragile because life is easy.
Peace becomes strong because we’ve become intentional.

That’s the kind of person I want to become.
Someone who protects what matters.
Someone who chooses wisdom over worry.
Someone who understands that saying no to unnecessary noise is often saying yes to a better life.

Today, identify one thing that regularly steals your peace. Then make one intentional decision to protect yourself from it.

It might mean:
Turning off notifications.
Limiting your news intake.
Stepping away from an unhealthy conversation.
Taking a walk instead of scrolling.
Saying no to something that doesn’t deserve your attention.

Small choices protect big things.

Reflection Question: What is one thing you need to stop giving unlimited access to your heart and mind?

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Wednesday Walk, July 29th, 2026: “The Empty Chair”

Sometimes the most productive thing you’ll do today is nothing at all.

On Monday, we talked about all the voices competing for our attention.
The notifications.
The opinions.
The expectations.
The endless stream of information.
Maybe you’ve noticed just how noisy life has become.

Today, I want you to picture something simple.
An empty chair.
Not the chair in your office.
Not the one at your kitchen table.
Just an empty chair sitting quietly on a porch, beneath a tree, or beside a window.

No television.
No phone.
No laptop.
No music.
No notifications.
Just a chair.

When was the last time you sat somewhere without trying to accomplish something?
Without checking your phone.
Without answering a message.
Without planning tomorrow.
Without solving yesterday.
Just… sat.

For many of us, that feels uncomfortable.
Silence has become unfamiliar.
If we’re waiting in line, we reach for our phones.
If we’re sitting in the doctor’s office, we scroll.
If we’re eating alone, we watch something.

We’ve become so accustomed to filling every empty moment that we’ve forgotten something important:

Not every moment needs to be productive.
Some moments simply need to be present.

What if peace isn’t something we accidentally stumble into?
What if it’s something we intentionally create space for?

Think about the healthiest relationships in your life.
The deepest conversations rarely happen when everyone is rushing.
They happen when someone slows down long enough to truly listen.
The same is true for our own hearts.

If we’re constantly filling every quiet moment with noise, we shouldn’t be surprised when we struggle to hear wisdom, recognize gratitude, or simply enjoy where we are.

Peace often speaks softly.
That’s why we miss it.
Not because it isn’t there.
Because everything else is louder.

So today’s challenge isn’t difficult
But it may be uncomfortable.

Find one chair.
Sit in it.
Ten minutes.
No phone.
No television.
No agenda.

Simply notice.
Notice your breathing.
Notice the breeze.
Notice the sounds around you.
Notice the thoughts that rush in.
Notice what begins to settle.

You don’t have to force peace.
You simply have to stop crowding it out.

Sometimes the most important thing you can do is create enough quiet to hear what has been waiting there all along.

Reflection Question: What might you hear if you made room for silence today?

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Monday Moment, July 27th, 2026: “The Loudest Voice In the Room”

Just because something is loud doesn’t mean it’s true.

Have you ever been in a room where several conversations were happening at once
Someone is talking beside you.
A television is playing in the background.
A phone rings.
Someone across the room laughs.
Another person is trying to get your attention.

After a while, something strange happens. You can hear everything…but you’re not really listening to anything.

Our lives can become like that. Except the noise isn’t always something we hear with our ears. Sometimes it’s the endless stream of opinions coming through our phones.
The news.
Social media.
Emails.
Notifications.
Expectations.
Other people’s criticism.
Other people’s success.
Other people’s emergencies.

And then there are the voices we carry inside our own heads.
You should be doing more.
You’re falling behind.
What if this doesn’t work?
What will people think?
You should have figured this out by now.

There are days when our minds become crowded rooms filled with voices competing for our attention.

And somewhere along the way, we begin making a dangerous assumption: We assume the loudest voice must be the most important one.

But loud doesn’t mean true.
Urgent doesn’t always mean important.
Popular doesn’t mean wise.
And just because something demands your attention doesn’t mean it deserves it.

That’s worth thinking about.
Because we often talk about wanting more peace.
We say we need a vacation.
A quieter schedule.
Less stress.
A weekend away.
And sometimes those things absolutely help.

But perhaps peace isn’t always about escaping the noise around us. Maybe it’s about becoming more intentional about which voices we allow to shape us.Think about how much access we give the world to our minds.

Before our feet hit the floor in the morning, many of us have already checked our phones.
Before we’ve decided what matters today, we’ve allowed dozens of other people to tell us what matters to them.
Before we’ve had time to think, reflect, pray, or simply be still…the room is already crowded.
Then we wonder why we feel restless.

Maybe peace isn’t something that disappeared.
Maybe it simply got drowned out.
And perhaps the question isn’t: “How do I make everything around me quieter?”
Because life probably isn’t going to become quiet.

There will always be opinions.
Responsibilities.
Notifications.
Problems.
Expectations.
And voices demanding our attention.

The better question might be: “Which voices have I allowed to become louder than they deserve to be?”
Because you may not be able to control all the noise around you.
But you can become much more intentional about what gets your attention.
And what gets your attention eventually influences your thoughts.
Your thoughts influence your choices.
And your choices shape the life you’re building.

So today, don’t try to fix anything yet.
Just notice.
Notice what gets your attention.
Notice what creates anxiety.
Notice whose opinion carries more weight than it should.
Notice what voice immediately fills the silence whenever life becomes quiet.
And then ask yourself: Does this voice deserve the influence I’ve given it?

Because the loudest voice in your life isn’t necessarily the one you should follow.
Sometimes the voice worth hearing most…is the one we’ve become too busy to hear.

Reflection Question: What voice has become louder in your life than it deserves to be?

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Friday Forward, July 24th, 2026: “Become the One Who Takes the The First Step”

Courage isn’t something you have. It’s someone you become.

Think about the people you admire most.
The leaders.
The teachers.
The parents.
The coaches.
The entrepreneurs.
The neighbors who always seem to make a difference.

It’s easy to assume they were simply born courageous.
But they weren’t.
They became courageous.
Not because fear disappeared.
Because they stopped waiting for fear to disappear before they acted.

Earlier this week, we talked about the comfortable places that quietly keep us from growing.
Then we challenged ourselves to take one intentional step.

Maybe you made that phone call.
Maybe you started that conversation.
Maybe you submitted the application.
Maybe you apologized.
Maybe you simply admitted it was time for something to change.

Whatever your step looked like, something important happened.
You didn’t just complete a task.
You began changing your identity.

Here’s something I’ve learned over the years:
Every time we choose courage, the next courageous decision becomes just a little easier.
Not because life becomes easier.
Because we become stronger.

Character is rarely built in one defining moment.
It’s built through hundreds of ordinary decisions that quietly shape who we’re becoming.
Every difficult conversation teaches us honesty.
Every act of forgiveness strengthens compassion.
Every first step weakens fear’s grip.

Little by little, courage stops being something we occasionally do…
…and becomes someone we consistently are.

That’s why this week’s journey wasn’t really about standing up from the chair.
Or knocking on the door.
Those were simply moments that revealed something deeper.

The real question has always been: Who are you becoming?

Because your future won’t be determined by one extraordinary act of courage.
It will be shaped by a lifetime of ordinary moments where you quietly choose courage again…and again…and again.

Don’t just take courageous steps.
Become a courageous person.
Because the world doesn’t simply need people who occasionally act with courage.
It needs people whose lives are defined by it.

Reflection Question: What kind of person will you become if you keep choosing courage one step at a time?

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Wednesday Walk, July 22nd, 2026: “The First Knock”

The hardest part of courage is almost always the beginning.

Have you ever stood outside a door, knowing you needed to knock?
Maybe it was a job interview.
A first date.
A difficult conversation.
An unfamiliar church.
A doctor’s appointment.
A neighbor’s house.

You knew what you needed to do.
You just couldn’t seem to make your hand move.

The funny thing is that the door itself wasn’t stopping you.
Fear was.
Uncertainty was.
Comfort was.

But here’s what I’ve discovered over the years:
The hardest part of courage is rarely what happens after you knock.
It’s deciding to knock in the first place.

So many opportunities remain unopened not because someone said “no,” but because we never gave them the chance to answer.

How many friendships never begin because someone never introduced themselves?
How many dreams remain dreams because the application was never submitted?
How many relationships slowly drift apart because no one was willing to start the conversation?
How many prayers for change are waiting for us to take the first step?

We often imagine courage as something dramatic.
Standing before crowds.
Making heroic sacrifices.
Changing the world.

But most courage is surprisingly ordinary.
It’s picking up the phone.Sending the email.
Apologizing first.
Scheduling the appointment.
Walking across the room.
Knocking on the door.

Every one of those moments says the same thing:
“I don’t know what will happen next…
…but I’m not going to let fear decide for me.”

Monday reminded us that comfort can quietly keep us stuck.
Today is your opportunity to stand up and move.
Not with ten giant steps.
With one.

One intentional act of courage.
One knock.
One beginning.

Because you can spend the rest of your life wondering what might have happened…
Or you can discover what happens when you finally reach out your hand.

Think about the one thing you’ve been avoiding.
The conversation.
The application.
The phone call.
The apology.
The invitation.
The first step.

Do it today...Not because you’re certain. But because courage grows every time you choose movement over comfort.

Reflection Question: What’s one door you’ve been standing outside that it’s finally time to knock on?

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Monday Moment, July 20th, 2026: “The Comfortable Chair”

Sometimes the safest place is the most dangerous place.

Have you ever sat down in a chair, intending to stay for “just a few minutes”?
You check one email.
Scroll through social media.
Watch one episode.
Rest for a moment.
Before you know it, an hour has disappeared.

The chair wasn’t the problem.
It simply made staying where you were feel easier than getting up.

Life has comfortable chairs too.
Not the ones in our living rooms, but the routines, habits, and fears that quietly convince us to stay exactly where we are.

We stay in jobs that no longer challenge us because they’re familiar.
We avoid difficult conversations because silence feels safer than honesty.
We postpone dreams because “someday” sounds more comfortable than “today.”
We settle into routines that require very little courage and then wonder why we feel stuck.

The truth is, comfort has a way of disguising itself as contentment.
But they’re not the same thing.

Contentment is finding peace with what God has given you while faithfully stewarding what He’s placed in front of you.
Comfort, on the other hand, can quietly become resistance to growth.

The greatest opportunities in our lives almost always begin with standing up from the comfortable place we’ve been sitting.

Every meaningful relationship requires vulnerability.
Every worthwhile dream requires risk.
Every season of growth requires leaving something familiar behind.

None of those things happen while we remain comfortably seated.

Perhaps the greatest danger isn’t failure.
Perhaps it’s becoming so comfortable that we stop becoming.

This week, before you dismiss that idea you’ve been considering, postpone that conversation you’ve been avoiding, or convince yourself that another day would be better, ask yourself one simple question: Am I choosing peace… or merely choosing comfort?

They often feel the same.
But they lead to very different destinations.
Maybe today isn’t about making a giant leap.
Maybe it’s simply about standing up.

Reflection Question: Where has comfort quietly become an excuse to stop growing?

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Friday Forward, July 17th, 2026: “Hope Has Feet”

Hope is a beautiful thing.
It keeps us believing.
It reminds us tomorrow can be better.
It gives us courage when life feels uncertain.

But hope was never meant to stay still.
Hope has feet.
It moves.

Too often we mistake wishing for hoping.
We say,
“I hope things get better.”
“I hope our relationship improves.”
“I hope I become healthier.”
“I hope I make a difference.”

Those are good desires.
But hope isn’t simply waiting for life to happen.
Hope inspires us to participate in the future we’re praying for.

A healthier life begins with today’s walk.
A stronger relationship begins with today’s conversation.
A better community begins with today’s act of kindness.
A new opportunity begins with today’s application.

The future we’re hoping for is often built by the choices we make today.
That’s what makes hope so powerful.

It doesn’t just help us endure.
It motivates us to act.

The people who change the world aren’t simply optimistic.
They’re hopeful enough to move.
They don’t wait until every question is answered.
They take the next faithful step because they believe the journey is worth taking.

Hope doesn’t sit on the sidelines.
Hope gets up.
Hope serves.
Hope forgives.
Hope encourages.
Hope begins.

This week, don’t just hold onto hope.
Walk in it.
Because hope was never meant to stay in your heart.
It was meant to show up in your hands, your feet, and your daily choices.

Reflection Question: What one act of hope can you put into motion today?

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Wednesday Walk, July 15th, 2026: “Borrowing Hope”

There are days when hope comes easily.
The sun is shining.
Life is moving forward.
Prayers are being answered.

The future feels bright.
But there are other days when hope feels much harder to find.

The diagnosis changes everything.
The job falls through.
The relationship begins to unravel.
The grief feels overwhelming.
The dream you’ve held onto seems to slip further away.

In those moments, people often don’t need someone to explain everything.
They don’t need quick answers or simple solutions.

More often, they need someone willing to sit beside them and quietly remind them that this isn’t the end of the story.

That’s one of the greatest gifts we can give another person.
Hope.

Not because we know exactly how everything will work out.
But because we choose to believe that tomorrow can still be better than today.

Sometimes we carry hope for someone else until they are strong enough to carry it themselves.

Think about the people who’ve done that for you.
The teacher who believed in you before you believed in yourself.
The friend who reminded you not to give up.
The family member who stood beside you during your darkest season.
The mentor who saw potential you couldn’t yet see.

Their hope became a bridge that helped you cross a difficult chapter.

Now perhaps it’s your turn.
There are people all around us carrying burdens we know nothing about.

A simple conversation.
A thoughtful text.
A genuine “How are you really doing?”
A reminder that someone isn’t alone.

These moments may seem small, but they often become lifelines.

Hope has a remarkable way of multiplying.
The more we give it away, the more it grows.

So this week, look for someone who may need to borrow a little hope.
Your encouragement might become the very thing that helps them keep moving forward.

Reflection Question: Who might need your hope more than your answers?

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Monday Moment, July 13th, 2026: “When the Light Is Still Far Away”

There are seasons in life when it’s difficult to see what’s ahead.

You pray, but the answer hasn’t come.
You work hard, but the opportunity hasn’t appeared.
You take steps forward, but the finish line still seems far away.

If we’re honest, those are the moments when hope is hardest to hold.

We often think hope means having confidence that everything will work out exactly as we planned. But real hope is different. Hope isn’t pretending the road is easy. Hope isn’t denying the reality of disappointment, uncertainty, or struggle.

Hope is choosing to believe that today’s circumstances are not the final chapter of the story.

Imagine driving down a dark country road at night. Your headlights don’t illuminate the entire journey. They only reveal the next stretch of road ahead.
Yet you keep driving.
Not because you can see every mile, but because you trust that each new section of the road will become visible as you move forward.

Life often works the same way.
We want God – or life – to hand us the entire map before we’ll take another step. Instead, we’re usually given just enough light for the next one.

Perhaps that’s because faith, character, patience, and perseverance aren’t developed by seeing everything. They’re developed by trusting enough to keep moving when we can’t.

So if you’re in a season where the future feels uncertain, don’t mistake the darkness for the absence of progress.
The seeds planted beneath the soil are growing long before anyone sees the first sign of life.
The sunrise begins before we ever notice its warmth.
And sometimes the greatest work is happening in places our eyes cannot yet see.

Keep moving.
Keep believing.
Keep looking for the next light.

You don’t need to see the entire road to continue the journey.
You only need enough light for the next faithful step.

Reflection Question: Where do you see even the smallest sign of hope today?

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Friday Forward, July 10th, 2026: “The Ripple Effect”

It’s easy to underestimate the impact of an ordinary day.

We often think our lives are shaped by the big moments – the graduation, the promotion, the wedding, the major decision. Those milestones certainly matter, but they aren’t the whole story. Most of life is lived in the ordinary.

It’s found in the conversations we have over coffee.
The encouragement we offer to someone who’s struggling.
The patience we show our children.
The integrity we demonstrate at work.
The kindness we extend to a stranger.

These moments may seem small, but they rarely stay small.
Every action creates a ripple.

A teacher’s encouragement inspires a student to pursue a dream.
A parent’s example shapes the values of the next generation.
A mentor’s investment gives someone the confidence to lead.
A simple act of compassion changes the course of another person’s day—and perhaps their life.

The beautiful thing about a ripple is that it always travels farther than the place where it began.

The same is true of our influence.

We may never fully know how our words, our choices, or our example affect the people around us. We may never see all the lives touched because we chose to be patient instead of angry, generous instead of selfish, hopeful instead of cynical.

That’s why every ordinary day matters.

Every decision is an opportunity to leave the world a little better than we found it.
Every interaction is a chance to encourage, strengthen, and inspire someone else.

So don’t underestimate today’s small moments.
The ripple you’re creating today may continue long after you’ve forgotten where it started.

Reflection Question: What kind of ripple are your daily choices creating?

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Wednesday Walk, July 8th, 2026: “Bloom Where You’re Standing”

It’s easy to believe that life will finally begin “someday.”

Someday, when you get the promotion.
Someday, when you have more money.
Someday, when the kids are older.
Someday, when you find the perfect job.
Someday, when you finally have enough time.

We spend so much of our lives looking ahead that we often overlook what’s right in front of us.

The truth is, purpose rarely arrives with a dramatic announcement.
More often, it quietly grows in the ordinary moments we almost ignore.

It’s found in the way we serve our family.
The care we show a coworker.
The encouragement we offer a friend.
The excellence we bring to today’s responsibilities.
The kindness we extend to someone who may never be able to repay us.

We often imagine that making a difference requires a bigger platform, more influence, or a different season of life.

But some of the greatest impact you’ll ever have may happen in places that never make headlines.

The seeds you plant today may grow in ways you’ll never fully see.

A word of encouragement can change someone’s direction.
A simple act of kindness can restore hope.

Faithfulness in small things often opens doors to greater opportunities.

Purpose isn’t something we eventually discover after life finally comes together.
Purpose is something we choose to live every day.

Wherever you are.
Whatever your role.
Whatever season you’re in.

Don’t underestimate the value of today’s opportunities simply because they seem ordinary.

Bloom where you’re standing.

Because the place you’re hoping to leave may be the very place where someone else needs what only you can offer.

Reflection Question: What opportunity are you overlooking because you’re waiting for another one?

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Monday Moment, July 6th, 2026: “The Compass, Not the Clock”

Success has a way of making us look at the clock.

We wonder if we’re behind in our career. We compare our lives to people our age. We measure ourselves against friends, coworkers, and even strangers on social media. Someone buys a house. Someone gets promoted. Someone starts a business. Someone retires early. Before long, we begin asking ourselves, “Why am I not there yet?”

It’s a question almost everyone has asked.

The problem is that our culture has convinced us that success is measured by speed.
Faster is better.
Earlier is better.
More is better.

But life doesn’t work that way.

Imagine you’re standing at the base of a mountain. One person races past you, climbing as quickly as they can. Another walks at a slower pace, carefully choosing each step.

At first glance, it seems obvious who’s winning.
But what if they’re climbing different mountains?
One may reach the top quickly only to discover they’ve spent years pursuing something that never truly mattered to them.
The other may arrive later, but they’ll find themselves exactly where they were meant to be.

That’s the difference between a clock and a compass.
A clock measures how fast you’re moving.
A compass measures whether you’re moving in the right direction.

The older I get, the more convinced I become that direction is one of the most overlooked parts of a meaningful life.

It’s possible to be incredibly busy and still be moving away from what matters most.

It’s possible to achieve goals that impress others while quietly neglecting the things that give life purpose.

It’s possible to climb higher than everyone around you and still realize you’ve been climbing the wrong mountain.

The good news is that purpose doesn’t require perfect speed.

It requires intentional direction.

Small steps taken consistently toward what truly matters will always be more valuable than running toward something that was never meant for you.

So this week, spend a little less time watching the clock.
Spend a little more time checking your compass.

Ask yourself if your decisions, your habits, your priorities, and your time are pointing you toward the life you truly want to live. Because in the end, a meaningful life isn’t measured by how quickly you arrived. It’s measured by where your journey took you.

Reflection Question: Are you climbing the right mountain… or just climbing faster?

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Friday Forward, July 3rd, 2026: “The Weight of ‘Almost'”

We’ve all said it.

“I almost called.”
“I almost applied.”
“I almost started.”
“I almost told them how I felt.”
“I almost took the opportunity.”

Life is filled with moments that sit just on the other side of action.

The problem isn’t usually that we don’t know what to do.
It’s that fear, uncertainty, comfort, or procrastination convinces us to wait just a little longer.
And over time, “almost” becomes one of the heaviest words we carry.

Not because of what we did…
But because of what we never tried.

The greatest regrets in life are often connected to the opportunities we never pursued, the conversations we never had, and the dreams we never gave ourselves permission to chase.

Growth doesn’t require certainty.
It requires courage.

You don’t have to know exactly how everything will turn out before taking the first step.
You simply have to decide that standing still is no longer an option.

This week, identify one thing you’ve been saying “almost” about.
Then replace “almost” with action.

Make the call.
Submit the application.
Start the project.
Have the conversation.

Because you’ll rarely regret taking a thoughtful step forward.
But you may regret never taking it at all.

Reflection Question: What “almost” needs to become “today”?

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Wednesday Walk, July 1st, 2026: “The Shopping Cart Test”

Life isn’t usually defined by the big moments.

Most of us imagine that character is revealed when we’re faced with life-changing decisions or extraordinary challenges. But more often, it’s revealed in the ordinary choices we make when no one is watching.

It’s the shopping cart we return even though no one would notice if we didn’t. It’s picking up a piece of trash that isn’t ours. It’s telling the truth when a lie would be easier. It’s choosing kindness when there’s nothing to gain in return.

These small moments may seem insignificant, but they quietly shape the kind of person we’re becoming.

Character isn’t built in the spotlight.
It’s built in the everyday decisions that rarely receive applause.

Every act of integrity is a vote for the person you want to become. Every small choice either strengthens or weakens your character. Over time, those seemingly insignificant moments become your reputation, your influence, and your legacy.

This week, don’t wait for a big opportunity to do the right thing.
Look for the small ones.

Because the smallest acts of integrity often reveal the greatest strength of character.

Reflection Question: Who are you when nobody is looking?

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Monday Moment, June 29th, 2026: “The Highlight Reel”

Life has never made it easier to compare ourselves to everyone else.

With a few taps, we can scroll through vacations, promotions, celebrations, new homes, perfect families, fitness transformations, and career milestones. Before long, we begin measuring our everyday lives against everyone else’s best moments.

The problem is that we’re comparing our reality to someone else’s highlight reel.

What we don’t see are the struggles behind the smiles, the setbacks behind the successes, or the ordinary days that exist between the photographs. Every life has challenges, disappointments, and seasons of uncertainty—they just don’t always make it into the post.

Comparison has a way of stealing our gratitude. Instead of celebrating our own progress, we become distracted by someone else’s journey.

But life isn’t a competition.
Your story isn’t supposed to look like anyone else’s.

Growth isn’t measured by how you compare to others. It’s measured by whether you’re becoming a better version of yourself than you were yesterday.

This week, spend less time measuring your life against someone else’s and more time appreciating the progress you’ve already made.

Celebrate the small victories.
Notice the growth.
Be grateful for your own journey.

Reflection Question: What are you overlooking because you’re watching everyone else?

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Friday Forward, June 26th, 2026: “The Weight You Were Never Meant to Carry”

Most of us carry things that no one else can see.
Not a backpack.
Not a suitcase.
But invisible burdens.

We carry guilt over mistakes we can’t change. We carry worry about things that haven’t happened. We carry the expectations of others, believing we have to meet every demand, solve every problem, and never disappoint anyone.

Over time, those unseen burdens become heavy. They steal our peace. They drain our energy. They keep us from enjoying the life that’s right in front of us.

The truth is, not every burden belongs to you. Some responsibilities are yours to embrace. Others were never yours to carry in the first place.

You cannot control every outcome.
You cannot fix every person.
You cannot meet every expectation.
You cannot carry yesterday forever.

Wisdom is learning the difference between what requires your attention and what requires your release.

Take a few quiet moments and ask yourself: What am I carrying that I was never meant to carry?

Maybe it’s regret.
Maybe it’s fear.
Maybe it’s someone else’s opinion.
Maybe it’s the pressure to be everything for everyone.

Whatever it is, acknowledge it.
Then choose to set it down.
Because moving forward often begins by letting go.

Reflection Question: What would change if you stopped carrying what isn’t yours?Most of us carry things that no one else can see.

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Wednesday Walk, June 24th, 2026: “Be The Person Who Goes First”

Most people are waiting for someone else.

Someone else to apologize.
Someone else to start the conversation.
Someone else to offer encouragement.
Someone else to help.
Someone else to lead.

The problem is that when everyone waits, nothing changes.

Relationships remain strained. Opportunities are missed. Teams become disconnected. Communities grow divided. Good ideas never move beyond discussion because everyone is waiting for someone else to make the first move.

Leadership often begins long before a title is given or a position is earned. It begins when someone chooses to take the first step.

The first apology.
The first act of kindness.
The first offer of help.
The first word of encouragement.
The first conversation.

Going first doesn’t guarantee a perfect outcome. Sometimes the response won’t be what you hoped for. Sometimes the effort won’t be immediately appreciated. But leadership has never been about controlling outcomes. It’s about taking responsibility for what you can do.

This week, don’t wait for someone else to create the change you’d like to see.
Be the person who goes first.

Send the message.
Offer the encouragement.
Extend the invitation.
Start the conversation.

Small acts of initiative often create ripples far beyond what we can see.

Reflection Question : What conversation are you waiting for someone else to start?

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Monday Moment, June 22nd, 2026: “The Waiting Room”

Life rarely moves as quickly as we’d like.

We have timelines in our heads. Expectations in our hearts. Plans for how things should unfold. We want answers, opportunities, breakthroughs, healing, progress, and clarity – and we usually want them now.

But life often has a different pace.

Many of us find ourselves waiting. Waiting for a door to open. Waiting for a relationship to improve. Waiting for a financial situation to change. Waiting for a prayer to be answered. Waiting for clarity about what comes next.

And if we’re honest, waiting can feel frustrating.

When nothing seems to be moving, it’s easy to assume that nothing is happening.

But what if that’s not true?

What if the waiting isn’t wasted time?

What if this season is doing more beneath the surface than we can currently see?

Some of the most important things in life require preparation. A tree spends years developing roots before it reaches impressive heights. Athletes train long before they compete. Leaders are often shaped through experiences nobody else sees. Growth frequently happens in private before it becomes visible in public.

The same is often true in our lives.

The waiting season may be strengthening your patience.

It may be deepening your perspective.

It may be building resilience, wisdom, character, or trust.

What feels like delay may actually be preparation.

Instead of asking, “Why isn’t this happening yet?” perhaps a better question is, “What is
this season teaching me?”

The answer may reveal that more is happening than you realize.

This week, pay attention to what the waiting room is producing in you. Not every season is about arriving somewhere. Some seasons are about becoming someone.

Reflection Question: What if the waiting is part of the preparation?

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Friday, June 19th, 2026: “Growth Feels Like Failure at First”

Nobody likes feeling bad at something.

We want progress to feel exciting. We want growth to feel rewarding. We want new skills, better habits, and stronger character to come naturally.

But that’s rarely how growth works.

Think about learning to ride a bike, starting a new job, speaking in front of a group, exercising consistently, or changing a long-standing habit. The beginning is often awkward. Progress feels slow. Mistakes seem frequent. It’s easy to assume we’re failing when, in reality, we’re learning.

The truth is that growth often feels uncomfortable because we’re stretching beyond what is familiar. What feels like failure may actually be evidence that you’re developing new skills, new perspectives, and new strength. Every expert was once a beginner. Every success story includes moments of uncertainty, frustration, and persistence.

This week, don’t quit simply because something feels difficult. Stay with it a little longer. Give yourself permission to be a beginner. The discomfort you feel today may be the very thing preparing you for growth tomorrow.

Reflection Question: What if your frustration is proof you’re improving?

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Wednesday, June 17th, 2026: “The Text You Haven’t Sent”

We’ve never been more connected.

We can send a message across the world in seconds. We can like, comment, react, share, and follow with the touch of a finger.

Yet many of our most important relationships slowly drift apart.
Not because of a big argument.
Not because of betrayal.
Not because of one dramatic moment.

More often, relationships weaken because of neglect.

Life gets busy. We assume there will be time later. We mean to call. We mean to text. We mean to check in. But “later” becomes next week, next month, or next year.

The truth is that healthy relationships are rarely built through grand gestures. They’re built through consistent connection. A simple text. A quick phone call. A note of encouragement. A conversation that says, “I was thinking about you.”

This week, think about the text you haven’t sent.
The friend you’ve been meaning to call.
The family member you’ve been meaning to check on.
The person who might need encouragement more than you realize.

Don’t wait for the perfect moment.

Reach out today.

Reflection Question: Who needs to hear from you today?

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Monday, June 15th, 2026: “Everyone Has An Opinion”

Everyone Has an Opinion

Every day we’re surrounded by opinions.

Open social media and someone is telling you what to believe, who to support, what to buy, how to think, and why everyone else is wrong. News feeds, podcasts, influencers, commentators, and algorithms all compete for one thing: your attention.

The challenge isn’t finding opinions. The challenge is finding wisdom.

Some of the loudest voices in our culture are also the quickest to react, the quickest to judge, and the quickest to speak before understanding. Volume and confidence can be mistaken for wisdom, but they’re not the same thing. Wisdom is often quieter. It takes time to listen, learn, reflect, and understand before responding.

This week, pay attention to the voices influencing your thinking. Are they making you more thoughtful, more compassionate, more informed, and more grounded? Or are they making you more anxious, more angry, and more reactive? Not every voice deserves a seat at your table.

Reflection Question: Whose voice is shaping your thinking right now?

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Friday, June 12th, 2026: “Tiny Choices, Big Future”

Most people want a better future.

We want stronger relationships. Better health. Greater peace. More purpose. We want to become wiser, more disciplined, more patient, and more effective in the areas that matter most.

The challenge is that we often expect big results while overlooking the small choices that create them.

The future isn’t usually shaped by one dramatic decision. It’s shaped by hundreds of ordinary ones. A conversation you choose to have. A habit you choose to build. A commitment you choose to keep. A small step forward repeated over time can lead somewhere remarkable.

This week, don’t focus on changing everything. Focus on one choice. One habit. One step. Because the life you’re building tomorrow is being shaped by the decisions you’re making today.

Reflection Question: What future are your current habits creating?

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Wednesday, June 10th, 2026: “What Your Calendar Really Says”

Most people can quickly tell you what’s important to them.

They’ll say family matters. Faith matters. Their health matters. Their relationships matter. Their personal growth matters.

But if someone looked at your calendar from the last seven days, would they come to the same conclusion?

Our intentions and our schedules don’t always match. We often fill our days responding to urgent demands while neglecting the things that matter most. Before long, weeks become months, and months become years. The reality is simple: our calendars tell the story of our priorities more honestly than our words ever will.

This week, take a few minutes and review your calendar. Look at where your time actually went. Then compare it to what you say matters most. If there’s a gap, don’t be discouraged. Just make one adjustment. Schedule one conversation. Take one walk. Set aside one hour. Small changes made intentionally can move us toward the life we want to live.

Reflection Question: If someone studied your calendar, what would they believe is most important to you?

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Monday, June 8th, 2026: “The Scroll That Never Ends”

Have you ever picked up your phone for “just a minute” and looked up thirty minutes later wondering where the time went?

We scroll through headlines, videos, opinions, updates, and endless content. We can know what’s happening everywhere in the world and still feel stuck in the same place ourselves. Information is everywhere. Growth is not.

Here’s the difference: being informed isn’t the same as being transformed. Knowing more doesn’t automatically make us wiser, healthier, kinder, stronger, or more purposeful. Transformation happens when we take what we learn and actually do something with it.

This week, try a simple challenge: for every 30 minutes you spend consuming content, spend 10 minutes investing in yourself. Read something that helps you grow. Learn a new skill. Reflect. Write. Pray. Exercise. Have a meaningful conversation. Move from consuming to becoming.

Reflection Question: Are you consuming more than you’re becoming?

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